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Improve Your Social Skills To Meet And Date More Girls

Thursday, January 8th, 2009

How and which way to improve your social skills? - to become the ultimate social guy

Simple yet powerful - following is the 4 stage game plan to fulfill your dream of being with best chicks.

1.Communicate with Girls
2.Improving knowledge on Seduction
3.Interacting with other Guys
4.Having a life

Communicate with Girls

It’s an old saying that ‘nothing can make you perfect more than the practice’. It’s simple and logical, as nothing can come even close to actually practicing what you wish to achieve. If you wish to learn how to swim, just jump into the water.

Lot of time we see a handsome person being cool with lots of girls and we think we can’t be in their league. As we think where can we have a flashy lifestyle or the swagger to go around with. But we fail to recognize that all these people have 1000’s of dejections under their belt. It’s not that they are natural but they have perfected art by practicing it. Even after hard rejections.

Simply ask your self how many times you actually did approach girls in the last month. 2? 5? 100? Surprise, surprise, but it’s not about skill. Actually it’s about being able to take out the fear of rejection and just going along with your instinct. It’s about making it a point to meet 10 different girls a month than just being able to find one. It’s in the attitude to change with rigor and stead fastness.

Improving knowledge on Seduction

It’s not sensible to see seduction material as some chip porn. But in reality the best material takes your skills on to a whole new level. They are in fact a chronicle of others successful interaction with woman.
There is no harm in learning from others. Yet the catch lies, that if you substitute reading with actually meeting girls than it’s of no use. Don’t make your self get into a trap that let me first hone my skills and than i will try it on a girl. It’s not a substitute but rather a source to further your knowledge and help you progress more.

Specially, the good literature on seduction can go many miles. As they are written by people with better socio-cultural understanding and guy-girl relationship. It has the potential to open up newer vistas which you might have neglected otherwise. We as humans are not capable to comprehend each and everything. We do require guidance from time to time. Still it all is good as far as you are ready to turn it in to real life experience. They are there to make you better at seduction but they can not seduce someone for you.

Your own experience can only help you reach where you wish to be and these is an accessory to make you sharper, more forth coming and make you aware of your style to be natural.

First accumulate as much as you can
Second pick up what suit your personality
Third don’t get carried away, rather discard it.

It’s imperative to think that one’s personal experience is not the right for me, but at the same time it’s not always true that one thing which failed now will always be a failure for me. The point being, be open and learn as much as you can, after all practice makes one perfect.

Interacting with other Guys

Observation is a virtue we seldom forget to act upon. The easiest way to sharpening your self is to observe other guys in action. It’s not replicating, rather learning the finer points and fine tuning ones skills by being in the field. Especially if you are starting out to be a newbie, you could surely score points from watching a pro in action.

Another great advantage of interacting is sharing, not the inner details, but seeking finner aspect of the whole approach to womans. It’s even great in bringing ones strengths and weaknesses to fore. As healthy interaction among guys makes one self aware. It’s a two way approach where you acquire newer knowledge by going trough literature and than hone it up openly discussing with your buddies. The idea is to bring the best out of you and can only happen if you open yourself and are ready to experiment.

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Sluts and Studs: Are Sexual Beliefs Around Promiscuity A Double Standard?

Thursday, January 8th, 2009

Lots of girls, rather most of them whom i have come across over years have one big concern as to why there are double standards in society? When a guy sleeps around and brags, it’s okay, but when a girl do such a thing she is looked down upon. Mostly it’s been unsatisfactory to answer such question, but in recent times i think i have a concrete understanding.

Lets see it in a way of a challenge. If i am sitting with a beautiful girl and we both lend up having a challenge, where the idea is to get laid as many times as possible, be it night or day. So the challenge is set and we get going. Let’s examine it both ways.

The girl goes out and meets some random guys and starts up a conversation. After initial chit chat, after a while she suggest, ’she would love if he is willing to come over to her place’. May be there is hesitation and she would go to the length that she might find someone else. It’s highly unlikely that that person, except being gay or very religious, would even think twice to such a situation. It would be practically no time before she gets her first pray.

On my part, i see the first girl and try to have a conversation. First we get to know each other and even i become direct, considering the time frame, to suggest her to come over to my place as i wish to make it a special treat. The chances are very slim, and even if she tags along, it’s tough to just get down to business with her. So i try a new approach, as may be attractive girls would not come along for such fling, how about trying not so good looking girls. Yet again i realize, they are not an easy pray either. Then i realize may be day time would require lot more efforts, i should try night time and try to seek out girls with high sex libido. Yet again, 98% time i find some or the other kind of resistance form girls.

The reality, it’s invariably difficult for a guy to get laid from a girl to find a man to have sex. How ever i feel for me to have years of experience, even knowing woman psychology and their sexual desires. I am still not in a position to achieve better results than the girl with whom i place the bet.
Well, after this experiment lets get back to our original inquiry. Let’s see a guy who have slept with may be 100 women. Which are high profile woman or even beautiful models. When a new girl meets him and sees his profile, she realizes that person has indeed been successful in seducing so many varied woman. So must posses some really interesting qualities like humorous, alphaness, intelligence. Sure he must be tender and caring and most important will be that he knows what he is doing. A class apart from every joe on the street. So a challenge for the girl herself.

Now when we examine the girl, it would seem that most guys would any way sleep with her. So most likely it’s a situation where she is presented on a plate and most guys with out giving a consideration would sleep with her. Most possible case would be that she is not all that attractive and could be seduced by any and every joe on the street. Thus the situation and it’s implication says that the girl seems not to be of high standings but the guy has a taste and knows where his bearings lie.

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Making Friends With Women Helps You Get More Dates With Girls

Saturday, January 3rd, 2009

Being friends with women is about treating them exactly how you treat your guy friends. Women know you are not their girlfriends. When you act like you are their girlfriend, they interpret it as an unconvincing pretense used to get into their pants.
To reiterate: Being friends with women is about acting the way you would around your guy friends.
Let’s discuss the reasons for making friends with women.

Reason # 1: You Will Be More Comfortable Around Women In General:
Men who don’t have female friends are usually nervous and uncomfortable around women, causing women to feel uncomfortable around them. When a woman picks this sort of man up by the proverbial scruff of his neck, and mercilessly tears him apart, like a cheaply wrought rag doll, he becomes nervous and uncomfortable in his own skin. This results in her becoming nervous and uncomfortable.
Trying to make women feel comfortable around you when you are uncomfortable in your own skin is usually a losing battle - and often times leads to them feeling even more uncomfortable.
The biggest part of making women feel comfortable is being comfortable in your own skin and around women. The quickest road I know to becoming comfortable in your own skin and around women is to make female friends.

Reason # 2: You Will No Longer Need An Endless Supply Of Pick Up Lines And Memorized Material To Be Successful With Women:
I know some guys who are amazing at approaching women and initially getting women attracted to them but as soon as they run out of rehearsed material, things take a floundering turn for the awkward as they buckle completely. One common scenario is that a guy will meet a woman and succeed in generating the emotion inside her of wanting, chasing, and reaching for more of him through using memorized material. She willingly gives him her number.
When he calls it like talking to a complete total stranger and the emotion of her feeling attraction towards him is long gone. Since he doesn’t know what to do outside the realm of using memorized material, she treats him like a random telemarketer trying to solicit her, cutting the phone call abnormally short and hanging up. The problem is that this guy neither understands women nor knows how to act around them. One of the best ways for developing these skills is by being friends with women - especially the type you strive to succeed with. Once you have taken the time to implement the skills you learned from my book in the real world and have made a few female friends, you’ll start to notice something cool happening in your interactions with women:  I’m not against using memorized material - in fact, I’m a fan of it. But if you can only interact with women using memorized material, you are in big trouble.

Reason # 3: Women Know When A Man Is Not Frequently Around Other Women:
Women are clairvoyant when comes to knowing whether or not a man is frequently around women. Women assume that if other females hang around you, then you must be a cool guy. They assume, likewise, that if no females hang around you, something might be wrong with you - bad thing! This is pretty much herd mentality - go figure!
One of the big problems with a lot of the material on how to attract women is that it only focuses on making you feel more confident about yourself. As, alas, you might know, you can do all the affirmations in the world, but if you don’t have the social skills to attract women, your out of luck.
Another blunder guys make when learning how to attract women is only memorizing material to say to women. Only memorizing material without understanding why you are doing it is a makeshift solution to attracting and succeeding with women. By just memorizing a few pick up lines, you’re cheating yourself out of really learning how to attract women.

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