Being friends with women is about treating them exactly how you treat your guy friends. Women know you are not their girlfriends. When you act like you are their girlfriend, they interpret it as an unconvincing pretense used to get into their pants.
To reiterate: Being friends with women is about acting the way you would around your guy friends.
Let’s discuss the reasons for making friends with women.
Reason # 1: You Will Be More Comfortable Around Women In General:
Men who don’t have female friends are usually nervous and uncomfortable around women, causing women to feel uncomfortable around them. When a woman picks this sort of man up by the proverbial scruff of his neck, and mercilessly tears him apart, like a cheaply wrought rag doll, he becomes nervous and uncomfortable in his own skin. This results in her becoming nervous and uncomfortable.
Trying to make women feel comfortable around you when you are uncomfortable in your own skin is usually a losing battle - and often times leads to them feeling even more uncomfortable.
The biggest part of making women feel comfortable is being comfortable in your own skin and around women. The quickest road I know to becoming comfortable in your own skin and around women is to make female friends.
Reason # 2: You Will No Longer Need An Endless Supply Of Pick Up Lines And Memorized Material To Be Successful With Women:
I know some guys who are amazing at approaching women and initially getting women attracted to them but as soon as they run out of rehearsed material, things take a floundering turn for the awkward as they buckle completely. One common scenario is that a guy will meet a woman and succeed in generating the emotion inside her of wanting, chasing, and reaching for more of him through using memorized material. She willingly gives him her number.
When he calls it like talking to a complete total stranger and the emotion of her feeling attraction towards him is long gone. Since he doesn’t know what to do outside the realm of using memorized material, she treats him like a random telemarketer trying to solicit her, cutting the phone call abnormally short and hanging up. The problem is that this guy neither understands women nor knows how to act around them. One of the best ways for developing these skills is by being friends with women - especially the type you strive to succeed with. Once you have taken the time to implement the skills you learned from my book in the real world and have made a few female friends, you’ll start to notice something cool happening in your interactions with women: I’m not against using memorized material - in fact, I’m a fan of it. But if you can only interact with women using memorized material, you are in big trouble.
Reason # 3: Women Know When A Man Is Not Frequently Around Other Women:
Women are clairvoyant when comes to knowing whether or not a man is frequently around women. Women assume that if other females hang around you, then you must be a cool guy. They assume, likewise, that if no females hang around you, something might be wrong with you - bad thing! This is pretty much herd mentality - go figure!
One of the big problems with a lot of the material on how to attract women is that it only focuses on making you feel more confident about yourself. As, alas, you might know, you can do all the affirmations in the world, but if you don’t have the social skills to attract women, your out of luck.
Another blunder guys make when learning how to attract women is only memorizing material to say to women. Only memorizing material without understanding why you are doing it is a makeshift solution to attracting and succeeding with women. By just memorizing a few pick up lines, you’re cheating yourself out of really learning how to attract women.